Self esteem

When they know.

I've touched base previously about a persons self esteem but i'll reiterate.
For some reason when someone is told countless times that he/she is very attractive, 8/10 times his/her personality will change and for the worst. If someone is told they look hideous then their self esteem plummets causing decreased social activity. The best way to live is to either convince yourself you're a bit of both, accept who you are or (my favourite) to not give a fuck.
This guideline seems to be unknown to the general public meaning everyones one side or the other. In the past I would say that I'd be careful with what I say though presently I may be a bit careless (especially when drunk).

Why am I bringing this up again? Because I skipped a critical note last time. Sure I wont tell a girl if she's ugly or hot, sure i'll put in a well placed friendly compliment but I wouldn't convince them fully. However I'm not the only guy talking to the girl. Plenty of other guys would try to convince her causing said personality change. It's time that I develop ways to adapt to the situation.

Heres a table on how much power a word conveys:

My proposed plan?

Point 1: If asked for an opinion on their personal appearance, use appropriate vocabulary in the green zone

Point 2: If someone exhibits a personality change in the anti social aspect, raise their self esteem by convincing them that they are above average and in the green or blue  zone. (Caution with the blue zone)

Point 3: If someone exhibits a personality change in the over confidence aspect. Show little interest in their appearance and use of sarcasm when approached on the subject.

Point 4: Facial appearance isn't the only factor to consider. Body attractions warrant the same amount of care.

Point 5: You can get someone in bed with you without using purple zone words. Yes it's possible.

Point 6: If someone has already accepted who they are, ensure they don't doubt themselves!